The Urge to Drink

When are the times you most want a drink?

For me it was when I’d come home from a grueling day at work, hungry from having not had time to each lunch, and walk in the house to find kids wanting me to take them places, go to the store for them, settle squabbles that had arisen over the day, as soon as I opened the door.

I’d put down my work bag, plug in my computer, change out of tights/bras/anything with a waistband and into yoga pants or pajamas, then open the fridge to see what I could make into a meal.

My friend the bottle of wine would be there waiting. “Cooking wine” I called it because it went into me while I got dinner together.

An urge is simply the desire to have something. Wanting. It’s a feeling.

For me, one glass turned into two, and often the whole bottle was gone before I knew it. When I heard my kids say I was drinking all the time, I knew it was affecting my parenting.

If we look at exactly what is happening during the times we have an urge to drink, there’s useful information there. What is underlying the wanting at that time? What do we really need?

Often we just want relief. To numb out from the hard day.

Keep looking. There are also more detailed clues about how to solve the situation without alcohol.

When I paid attention, I noticed that I was famished and grumpy from not eating all day. Instead of pushing through with a glass of wine to raise my blood sugar, I realized bringing lunch was a better strategy to take care of myself, and my family. Then I wasn’t so desperate when I walked in the door.

The next time you have an urge to drink, ask yourself what exactly your body is seeking that the alcohol seems to solve. Is it possible to meet that need in a different way? What are the options?

Come up with three strategies of how to take care of yourself and meet your needs without the drink.

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Julie Ernst